How can you help your child build a “take-charge” attitude and assume more responsibility for learning? Read and discuss these self-management strategies together:
1. Set Goals
Help your child learn to set goals and work to achieve them. Let your child know that successful people set goals. To succeed goals should be:
- Short-term – do-able in a brief period of time
- Specific – “75% on the weekly math test” or “completing a research report on schedule” are clearly defined goals. You will both know when a specific goal has been met.
- Realistic – set only slightly above current level of achievement so that improvement can be recognized frequently.
- Planned – to include the when, where, why, how, and how long of meeting the goal successfully.
2. Be an example
Give examples of goals you have set and met. Tell results and benefits of meeting goals. Let your child know that you feel good about what you achieved.
Discuss stories about people in the news who have set and met goals so that your child sees the value of taking responsibility for achievement
3. Introduce checklists
Checklists build responsibility and provide the sense of achievement that comes from checking completed items off a list.
4. Encourage a positive approach
A “can’t do” approach weakens a child’s will to “take-charge” of learning.
5. Understand instructions
Your child can’t gain a sense of responsibility, work independently, and “take-charge” in learning situations without understanding directions and instructions. Help your child know what to do with everyday instruction words by explaining, using, and reviewing the key words and phrases of instruction, such as:
- circle P cross out P underline P delete P omit P graph
- compare/contrast P explain P outline
6. Ask questions
When students sense that they need to know more about a topic, their motivation increases and they want to take responsibility for more learning.
7. Give praise
Praise used effectively can increase your child’s motivation and build a sense of responsibility for learning.
Praise for successful or improved performance, not just working on a task. Wait until you see that enough effort has been put forth, or enough work accomplished, so that praise is truly deserved.
8. Build on success
Once your child’s skills are beginning to expand and you see a “take-charge” attitude toward learning, you can help build on this success.
- Give opportunities to practice skills informally
- Encourage interests, activities, and hobbies that provide practice in learning
- Give increased responsibility