December 30th, 2012 by eTutor
|Holidays can be difficult times for children when their parents are divorced or separated. According to psychologists Evan Imber-Black and Janine Roberts” “The child may be hurt or angry when the parent does not contact him on a holiday. The parent who lives with the child may then be left to deal with the emotional reactions. The child may have fantasies that the holiday would be much better with the missing parents. or he may blame the parent he is with for the fact the other isn’t there.”
Ignoring the emotional stress may be tempting….especially if you yourself are still dealing with the stress and emotions of a divorce or separation. But that only causes your child to feel worse, the authors say.
They suggest: Sit down with the child and look at pictures of the missing parent and talk about what it would be like to have contact with him or her. Set aside your own anger and simply listen to your child’s feeling, say the authors. help make contact with relatives of the missing parent if they want to see the child. if there is no chance of the child reconnecting with a missing parent at holidays, have an honest discussion about the subject.
“Family Change: Don’t Cancel Holidays,” Psychology Today