A judge in a large mid-western city was describing the causes of juvenile delinquency speaking from personal experience with thousands of young people: “Children want to be honest. They do not want to cheat. They look to their parents and teacher to teach them honesty. They are confused, letdown, and disappointed when they hear one parent on the telephone saying the other parent is not at home. But they are both in the living room watching television, it is these little white lies that tear down the trust and confidence children want to have in their parents. Children cannot tell the difference between little dishonesty and big dishonesty.” Can anyone? Don’t you have a feeling of insecurity in someone you know does not respect absolute truthfulness and honesty?
Mutual trust starts with your total honesty, even at your expense. No exaggerations, no cover-ups, no distortions, no little white lies…just complete honesty. It is a contagious characteristic that will spread to others.