The Home-School Team
We all have very busy schedules. Many of us are
working parents and spend long hours away from home. But there are
some creative ways to be involved in your child's learning
activities. Here are some ideas that others have reported are
working for them.
Watch a specific television program with your
child and then discuss the show with him.
Take your child to the library regularly.
Review learning activities with your child and
sign them as a signal that you have checked them over.
Participate in a task that requires your child to
ask you questions.
Play a game or take part in an activity that
reinforces and concept or skill that your child is learning.
Talk with your child about what she is learning
Review spelling words, drill math facts or quiz
your child about tasks that require memorization.
Establish a regular study time.
Set aside time to read to and with each of your
children every day.
Limit the number of hours your child watches
television or plays on the computer.
Adapted from The Parent
Doesn't That Sound Fair?
I'm always intrigued by conversations
that start out, "It just isn't fair...." The whole
concept of fairness interests me so much because I tend to believe
that fairness is, at best, a losing proposition.
Company day care services
for children? Totally unfair to childless couples. Will
you watch my dog instead? Upward mobility programs? Career
pathing? Sorry. Unfair to the downwardly headed.
Increased maternity leave? You must be joking!
The dilemma of each of
these scenarios begins with one false assumption: that fairness
is possible. And the more you talk about fairness the more
unfair you become. The more you're motivated by wanting people
to approve of you and your actions, the harder it becomes to win
approval. There seems to be a finite universe of expectations
people have about what constitutes fair treatment. Make just one
change in that universe and you affect an entire system of beliefs and
feelings. People hate it when that happens.
So is the answer
unfairness? No, that wouldn't be fair.
about fairness has an unspoken hook. It's like a child saying to
a parent, "I'm bored." The unstated but intended
message is, "Don't just sit there, Dad. Do something to
Of course, when parents
assume that responsibility they nurture a dependency that can be hard
to break in later years. An alternative....or more
authentic....conversation goes like this: "You have a toy
chest full of games and toys, lots of lessons, coaching and
books. You can take responsibility for your boredom."
It may turn out that boredom isn't the issue. The child may
really want to say, "Dad, I'd like to spend some time with
you. I'm lonely." Since that is a more authentic
"child" conversation, the adult is more likely to deliver an
authentic parent response. The operative word is authentic;
owning what you really want to say in a clear, clean and direct
What happens in fairness
conversation is the same deal. When I say, "That is not
fair," the unstated intended message is, "Make it right for
me." When a spouse or friend plays that game with us, we
are nurturing the same kind of dependency that the bored child and his
parents have created.
Where there is trust,
honesty and respect between two people, there are fewer conversations
about unfairness. If there is basic honesty in the way you
approach others and you are clear with your own beliefs and feelings,
you can also free yourself from having to take responsibility for the
baggage of others, when there is really nothing you can do to make
their world perfect.
Now, doesn't that sound
Adapted from Working