The element of winning is so ingrained that we become
unnecessarily competitive and this can seriously hurt our ability to bargain well and to
get the most, individually and/or jointly, out of the situation.
It is mutually disastrous to try to beat someone else; in
so doing, you may hurt everyone, including yourself. When you bargain well you and
everyone else involved will obtain very good outcomes.
is more common than you think
Before you assume that your child would never cheat,
consider this: In a California survey of 1,037 sixth graders, 38 percent said they had
copied from another student in an exam. By the time these students graduate from college,
university studies have shown, more than half will have cheated in order to get better
Children, particularly adolescents, are strongly influenced
by a desire to be accepted, but they often do not have a good sense of right and wrong.
This need to feel part of a group makes them willing disciples of the "everybody is
doing it" philosophy. It is important to instill in your child the values which will
help arm him against the temptation and peer pressure to cheat. There are ways parents can
promote honesty in children.....when they are on the athletic field, playing a game or
"exaggerating" achievements to friends. Stress that dishonesty, in any form, is
wrong in principle, as well as unfair to his peers and ultimately, to himself.
Despite your influence, you may suspect that your child has
cheated. There are a few ways you can deal with it, including:
Dont condemn. Discuss your suspicions
with your child, but express disappointment or doubt, not anger.