Children will not remember you for the material things you provided,
but for the feeling that you cherished them..
Evans (1906-1971) Church Leader
are lots of ways to say NO when it is appropriate to do so.
Teenagers are more likely to stand up for themselves and their beliefs
if they can do so without embarrassing themselves or offending their
of the things that teens have to learn...and parents can teach them...is that it is all right to be different once in a while, that
real friends will respect their individuality and honesty. You
can point out that bucking the crowd can actually be a source of
strength...and so can speaking up in an effort to change minds among
with your teen how peer pressure works. Suggest that friends who
are pressuring may be feeling pressure themselves and may even be
relieved if someone else has the courage to say NO and to explain
about qualities that make a leader. Explain that saying NO
doesn't have to mean being left stranded by friends and peers.
One can disagree and gain support by offering a better idea.
People admire those who offer new ideas and seem confident of
themselves and their beliefs.
ways of saying NO gracefully. A polite "No, thank
you" will have a better effect than a rude or insulting
refusal. Giving a reason without being critical is less
threatening to the other person. Using humor eases the tension
and takes the spotlight off a refusal. And, suggesting
alternatives will let friends know that you still want to be with
them...even if you don't want to do what they have
Opportunity - Start Digging!
If opportunity, like
diamonds, is hidden you must start digging to find it. And, like
diamonds, you might have to move a lot of "sand" to find just
a little opportunity. You're not going to strike pay dirt with
every one you make. But being consistently "opportunity
minded" will eventually make you a more successful person.
Where, specifically, can you dig for diamonds?
Look at the people around
you. Can you expand your ambitions and ability to serve through
them? Can you make a community member a more effective person by
doing everything to help and support? Can you support the
community member's ideas even if you don't always agree?
How about the friend, the
neighbor, the postal carrier, and, yes, the family? Are your
giving the little bit extra day in and day out to help them do better at their tasks? Ultimately, your opportunity must come
through serving others better. It starts by your developing
habits of treating everybody like a "diamond" and not just
trying to "butter up" the people you think can do you some
Look at the way you do
things. Are you doing everything as well as you know how?
Or are you just getting by? There is real opportunity in doing
things to impress others favorably. Done continuously, this
habit will win you recognition and the "diamonds" of greater
success. People are always impressed by a task done with pride
A friend helping an
invalid parent with cheerfulness and thoroughness, a neighbor
welcoming newcomers and taking pride in introducing them to the
neighborhood, a parent settling a "playmate problem" with
promptness and keen interest, are like a well painted landscape,
things of beauty. Acts such as these, like diamonds, do not go
Adapted from The Public School
need to be strong to withstand the external pressures they face in the
changing world. Five family strengths contribute to healthy
Members share their feelings and concerns and listen and
respond to each other.
making. Everyone has a role in family decisions.
They share power and rules, and reasons are given for discipline.
and loyalty. Members are proud of themselves as a family
and of what makes them unique as a family, and they enjoy special
and community ties. Members know who to turn to for
help. They are involved with schools, churches, or community
organizations that promote the well-being of individuals and
and caring. Members trust and affirm one another.
They show their feelings of pride, affection and caring, and
balance togetherness with time spent on individual
from Wisconsin Department of Public Instruction
What You Mean
a tale to remind us of how tricky communication can be if we
don't choose our words carefully.
need a huge favor," said a woman to her friend. "I
promised I'd take this pair of penguins to the zoo today, but an
emergency just came up and I need to be across town in the next half
hour. I can't possibly do both."
to worry," assured her friend. "I'll take the
penguins to the zoo for you, and you just deal with the
the woman finished tending to the situation across town, she drove to
the zoo to make sure the delivery went as planned. Much to her
dismay, neither her friend nor the penguins wee anywhere in
sight. The zookeeper said there'd been no deliveries in the last
the woman got back in her car to look for the wayward group.
Just as she was about to give up her search, she spotted her friend
coming out of an ice cream parlor...with the penguins in tow!
where have you been? I thought you were going to drop off the
penguins at the zoo for me? I've been worried sick!"
did take them to the zoo. But we saw most of the animals
there...the penguins sure do like monkeys. And since you weren't
done yet, and they were so well behaved, I thought I'd take them out
for sno-cones and sundaes until you came back."
from the Energize, Inc. Web Site
A five-word sentence that could change the world tomorrow is
"What would love do now?".
Donald Walsch, Writer
Some children need extra
help socializing effectively. But don't assume there is a
problem just because your child likes to spend a lot of time
alone. If a child is happy and confident, don't worry about the
number of friends, says Elizabeth Pantley, author of Perfect
Parenting (1998). Sometimes a child is more
introverted. Only step in if the child perceives a lack of
friends as a problem.
It's difficult for
children to admit that they don't have friends, so when they do speak
up, listen. "We tend to jump in and say 'Of course, you
We tend not to validate
their feelings," says Charlene Giannetti, author of Cliques:
8 Steps to Help Your Child Survive the Social Jungle. They may
have friends, but just not the one they want.
Objectively, watch your
child's behavior with other children. His attitude toward others
may prevent good kids from being attracted to him. Is he bossy
on the playground? Does she interrupt? Is he teased
because of a grooming issue? Tackle one issue at a time.
Just like a good coach, encourage practice and role play to make your
child a winner.
Adapted from Better Homes
Double Your Brain Power
probably sometimes wish that you could think faster, grasp new
information quicker and recall more of what you read and hear. I
know I do. You and I can, with these tips.
you want to commit to your short-term memory in the morning.
Reason: The brain section that stores short-term memory
items performs about 15 percent better in the morning. But
switch to the afternoon for items you want to keep in your
long-term memory because that part of your memory bank hits its
stride later in the day.
Reverse and rephrase"
to overcome negative thoughts about your ability to learn
something new: Example: Instead of "I
won't remember what I'm learning," tell your brain
"I've already learned to recall many things...names, dates,
computer commands. So I can and will remember this."
Plan for an
upcoming learning event by selecting a reward you will give
yourself afterward. Pick something you wouldn't usually buy
or do. Picture yourself enjoying the reward just
before the learning event starts. Repeat the process
whenever you feel anxious about learning the information. Note:
No matter how things turn out, give yourself the
questions after you read something that you want to
remember: What was it about? What parts of it were most
important? What opinions, if any, did it contain?
What's my opinion of it? What element makes it unique? Note:
Do this mentally or in writing...whichever works best for you.
Rely on graphic
devices to increase your reading speed and to help you zero in on
the main points in books and other publications. Examples:
italics, boldface, underlining, bulleted lists, charts, graphs,
etc. As you go through pages, ignore regular text and scan
only for these devices. When you find one, slow down and
read those sections more carefully.
Boost your thinking
power by taking the time to really think about the answers to
these questions about a situation, some information or a
problem: What seems to be the key idea here? Does this
resemble or parallel anything I've already learned or
experienced: Do I still have a nagging question about any
part of this? When I put everything together, what do I see
as most important?
Double Your Brain
Power: Increase Your Memory By Using All of Your Brain All the
by Jean Marie Stine
for children, the uncertainties of the present always give way to the
enchanted possibilities of the future.
Jumping June Links:
Connecting the Continent: What does it take to connect a continent for communication? In these
days of satellite transmissions, it does not seem like such a huge
task. Go back in time, and across the continent of Australia, to 1870
to connect the continent together with an overland telegraph line.
This website traces the route, the stories, and the settlements that
grew along its path. Students can participate in a webquest, observe
Virtual Reality (VR) images of the countryside, and hear audio clips
of assorted residents. Flash and Quicktime are required for certain
Paul Revere Virtual Museum:
Thanks to Kimberly Hamilton, who created this site in conjunction with
the SCORE project in California. Five exhibit halls cover the Poem by
Longfellow, The Real Story, Colonial Boston, Ride with Paul Revere
across the Charles River, and Music of the Revolutionary War.
Activities and resources are covered in each exhibit hall.
Your Sky: Working with map skills? Help your students build a sky map. This
program lets you choose a nearby city, or enter your latitude and
longitude, to find out what is in the sky presently. Using fairly
easy-to-use controls, you can then manipulate the data to find a star
map for the next night, or the next week. http://www.fourmilab.ch/yoursky/
Arctic Alive: Arctic Alive is a distance-learning environment for learners. Although
the actual interaction with researchers has already taken place,
teachers can use the background materials on the arctic, earth
systems, and climate with students. Lessons, or investigations, often
link to activities on other sites. http://www.arcus.org/arcticalive/index.html
An Uncommon Mission: For more than two hundred years, the twenty-one California Missions
have helped shape California state history. View paintings of the
Missions created by Father Jerome Tupa, explore the history of the
missions, and look at historic structures a new way. Activities accompanying the
paintings target vocabulary, the arts, and history. http://www.kn.sbc.com/wired/mission/index.html
Explore Mars: This interactive, Flash-based website lets you explore the Mars Base
Habitat and Rover and learn about the science and technology behind
them. Sections include: base layout, lab, airlock, medical, bunks,
personal hygiene, greenhouse, design drawings, and more.
Growth of a Nation: A ten minute narrated movie, divided into smaller segments, which
depicts the geographic history of the United States from the beginning
of the nation to fifty states. Geographic elements are interactive, as
is the timeline.
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