Success is a marathon, not a sprint.
Winning Be Everything?
course you want your children to earn good grades. You encourage
them to participate in sports and other activities. But when does
encouragement become excessive pressure? An obsession with perfect
grades may actually interfere with learning by keeping children from
taking appropriate risks. Some students are reluctant to sign up
for a physics or calculus class for fear of spoiling a straight
A-average. Some children can't form close friendships with peers,
who are seen consistently as competitors. Some respond by
developing emotional or stress disorders and others simply
stop trying, since they view perfection as a hopeless goal.
offer another source of frustration for some kids. The National
Youth Sports Coaches Association expresses concern about parents who
live vicariously through their children, pushing them to become star
athletes. Because of this pressure, the Association estimates that
almost 70 percent of all children who start participating in youth
sports drop out by age 13. Most say they are "burned
society that often values winning over being nice, how can parents avoid
pressuring their kids too much? The National Association of
Secondary School Principals (NASSP) suggests that parents reward good
grades with praise and respond to poor grades with simple words of
encouragement or offer to provide help (a tutor, for example).
NASSP urges parents to avoid rewarding good grades with such presents as
money or car use and withdrawing them if grades fall. The point is
to teach kids to value intrinsic rather than extrinsic rewards.
National Youth Sports Coaches Association has developed a Parents' Code
of Ethics to help parents keep sports competition in proper
perspective. Among other things, parents pledge to place emotional
and physical well-being of their children ahead of winning, to insist
that children play in a safe and healthy environment, to do their best
to make youth sports fun for their children and to remember that the
game is for children and not for adults.
one can be perfect at everything, first time, every time. Your
children need to know that their personal best can make you just as
proud as a blue ribbon.
School Public Relations Service
is what enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
the time children enter school until the onset of adolescence, their
lives are much more relaxed than during the preschool or teen
years. It is easy then for parents to sit back and enjoy the
relative calm between two storms. But this is really the last
opportunity to build a close personal relationship with your children
before they start breaking away to adulthood and it should not be
this time, children learn both independence and dependence. At
the same time that they acquire the ability to do more things for
themselves they are also learning when they can count on security and
guidance from their parents.
praise for their accomplishments helps children to see themselves as
worthy individuals. They will begin to form an opinion of
themselves that reflects the opinion you....and such other adults, as
teachers....convey to them. Avoid downgrading about weaknesses;
shun belittling terms such as "stupid" or "ridiculous."
Talk proudly of their strengths and realistically about their
weaknesses and your children will adopt the same attitudes. The
measure of support, interest and time you give children at this stage
will make the difference in whether they grow up with an attitude of
self-confidence or self-doubt.
saw many superstars at the recent Olympics. This
information is important for all of us. Never believe your own
clippings. Nobody can do everything, but sudden success can
bedazzle you into trying. It is not a good idea. More is
expected of superstars. If you can handle two crises well, why
not four? And besides, that was yesterday. What have
you done today? Sound cruel, but that is often how it is,
especially if you come across as an "I can do anything" kind
when you should watch out for the warning signals that indicate you
may be headed for a fall. You find that you keep having to
demand more of yourself and that those hidden reserves of strength and
energy are being used up a lot faster than you ever thought they would
be. One day, you're in over your head and you know it.
What should you do to avoid such a pitfall and keep in high gear?
Don't ever get a
swelled head. Eat a little bit of humble pie every so
often, rather than the whole thing all at once.
Be clinical in
assessing your success. If you are honest with yourself,
you won't raise false expectations in others.
credit. Do it a lot, even if it isn't deserved as much
as you say that it is. In the end it makes you a bigger
person and someone less hard to live up to.
Adapted from Executive
We are all of us richer than we think we are.
Is there someone in your family who
qualifies as a constant complainer? If there is, here are some
ideas that might help.
Create a climate where the
complainer feels heard.
Overcome the urge to argue with
Make sure to ask lots of
Plainly tell the complainer
what you can and can't do about the complaints.
Listen without passing
Ask him to stop complaining.
Ignore the complainer's
invitation to join in a gripe session.
Negotiate a workable
solution. If there is one.
Explain that he needs to
Resist getting trapped.
Adapted from Practical
four high school boys decided to skip classes. Arriving after
lunch, they explained to the teacher that their car had a flat tire on
the way. To their relief, the teacher smiled understandingly and
said: "You boys missed a test this morning. Please take
your seats apart from one another and get out your paper and
When the boys
were seated, she continued, "Answer this one question:
Which tire was flat?"
Our children are back in school and many of them
are already doing homework....some of it is reporting and
researching. With the advent of the Internet, we are often in a quandary
about copyright law. We've found some information which might be
helpful to you.
Copyright law allows for "fair use" of
previously published material for research, education, news or
critical purposes such as book reviews according to author, Cheryl
Besenjak. A court of law may evaluate whether "fair
use" was made of previously published material based on these
- Was the material used for profit or nonprofit
- What is the nature of the work you
copied? Was it intended for private or public
- How much of the copyrighted material have you
- What are the commercial consequences of using
the copyrighted material?
Given these four factors, how can material
from a published source be used?
- Paraphrase rather than directly quoting the
material. Rewrite the material in your own words, but be
sure to acknowledge the original source.
- Use similar material considered to be in the
- Ask for permission to quote. While some
authors or publishers might say no, most appreciate the extra
publicity and say yes.
and Simple, Cheryl Besenjak
preach teamwork, do you work well with others? If you ask others
to take risks, does your behavior match your words? If you recommend
lifelong learning, do you study and keep up with
current events. Those who fail to practice what
they preach lack credibility. Others won't follow their
advice. Put this reminder on your
refrigerator door: "Walk the Talk."
from Overcoming Resistance by Jerald M. Jellison
Do I Measure Up?
In a study of educators that
identified common threads of excellence that educators all shared,
results identified the following:
Confidence in subject matter
knowledge. Excellent educators displayed confidence and
enthusiasm about knowing what they were teaching. Students appreciated
the confidence even though the educators occasionally acknowledged
Active learning. Superior
educators were able to actively engage students by building
bridges between abstractions and students, actual experiences; by
creating connections between students; lives and the aims of the
explanations. The best educators provided patient and
superior explanations and gave direct answers to students'
questions. Assignments and expectations were clear.
They were able to put complex processes into
Attention to individual
differences. Top educators varied their instructional
strategies to meet students' needs.
Sense of humor. The
outstanding educators' playfulness and attempts to connect by
using humor or witticisms engendered appreciation and respect
awareness. No matter how relaxed the educators appeared to
be, they were constantly evaluating student behaviors and making
decisions based on their observations.
There is no evidence that the tongue is connected to the brain.
Helping Students Achieve
most important thing parents can do to help their sons or daughters
with homework is to help them believe that the hours spent studying
can and do make a difference. Whether you are a parent of
elementary or secondary students, homework cannot become your
responsibility. One of the purposes of homework is to give
students the opportunity to
take charge of part of their own learning. But there are some
specific ways you can help your son or daughter do the best possible
job on homework.
can stress that homework is important. That means you will help
your son or daughter find a time and place for homework. Parents
sometimes have to help young people learn how to schedule their
time. For example, some families institute a rule: No
television or electronic games until homework is completed.
help your son or daughter learn to pay attention. With younger
children, you can ask questions about the material being
studied. You can also help them set appropriate study
goals. Sometimes it's easier to review the main points of a
study assignment by talking with someone. Let your son or
daughter know you are available to listen.
do their best work when they believe they can be successful
learners. When your sons or daughters have completed a study
session, reinforce the idea that the study time will help them be
Association of School Administrators
Autoshop101 - Automotive Training Resource Site:
Automotive training support for Automotive technicians, students, and
teachers. Online ASE style electrical practice tests, technical articles, online tutorials, etc. All items can be used for education
purposes; students and teachers can reprint materials for class use. Toyota supports education, their only requirement is that their
copyright remain on the document and that their work not be modified.
exZOOberance: exZOOberance is dedicated to those who love and support the animal
kingdom. The pictures of animals make this site a joy for animal lovers
of all ages. (Readers are invited to add to information about the animals listed). News articles regarding all things touching the
animal kingdom can tie Life Science in with current events.
Take me out to the ballgame, as played in Mesoamerica, the subtropical
area between present-day countries of Mexico and El Salvador. Learn about the eight major cultures found in this area between 1500 BC and
1519 AD, as well as the effect of the Spanish conquest in this region.
Then, explore the architecture of the court, as well as the the balance
between sport and religion within the game. Offline activities include
creation of masks, clay effigies, headdresses and clay ballgame figurines.
Earth Calendar: Do
you know what is being celebrated today? This calendar is not centered on the US, but on the nations of the world. Find holidays by
nation, or by date, or by religion. Also, keep up with the phases of the
moon. Easy to use.
The Great Plant Escape: Detective LePlant guides students through the information they need
about plants and the part they play in our lives. In six
multi-disciplinary lessons, plants, dirt, flowers, and bulbs are the center of attention. A teachers guide integrates the lessons and online
quizzes with other classroom ideas.
Science, Tobacco, and You:
Designed for fourth and fifth grade students and teachers, this site contains a multi-disciplinary unit combining media literacy
(adsmarts) with science and psychology. Available in English and Spanish.
WhoZoo: Biology students at Texas Wesleyan University have put together a very
easy to navigate site that highlights the best Houston Zoo has to offer.
Great images and descriptions of animals, as well as observations of the
Studyguides: What does it take to be a good student? This website gives tips of
top students. Even though it was created for college students at the
University of St.Thomas, middle school and high school students can benefit from this resource. The guides are available in many
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