Take Time Away
Nobody wants to be
together all the time. Children need time away from you and you
need time away from them. Whether it is a little break in the
day or a weekend getaway, being apart can refresh everyone. You need
regular time to be alone, to reflect, to sit quietly. You also
need time to talk privately with your spouse or friends.
with a little getaway when they are babies. Time away can add
new insights to your life and will help you appreciate each other
more. When they reach school age your children will start
wanting to spend the night with friends. For a short break, go
to the bedroom for a nap or soak in the tub. A fifteen-minute
time-out can revitalize you and your child.
a weekend outing alone. If you feel a little guilty, remember
that a little guilt is preferable to piles of resentments because you
never have time for yourself. When you are stressed-out,
burned-out, or suffering from too much togetherness, the best way to
deal with it is to announce honestly with a "Do not disturb"
sign. In fact, make sure each family member has a "Do not
disturb" sign to hang on their door when they need to get away
and be alone.
from Wonderful Ways to Love a Child, Judy Ford
you remember what tomorrow is?" Barbara asked her
four-year-old son Adam as he ate his lunch.
tapped his finger on his lips and said, "I* don't remember."
will be your first day of preschool. Do you remember what we
nodded as he took a bite from his sandwich. He swallowed and
then looked at his mother with wide eyes. "Mommy, will I
have breakfast at my new school?"
Barbara said. "You'll have breakfast here at home before
you go to school."
look over to the next chair where his favorite blanket was bunched in
a ball. "Will I get to take my binky with me?"
Your binky will stay here. And you'll have lunch here after
school as well."
looked around the room nervously, "Will I get a snack at my
don't think so," said his mom.
what am I going to have to do while I'm at school?" Adam
was on the verge of tears.
you'll get to meet new kids and play new games and take field trips to
new places and..."
brow wrinkled. "Will they have crayons?"
They'll have crayons, plus finger paints and maybe even..."
Adam let out a sigh of relief and sat back in his chair.
"Because I like crayons."